I think you should save money and not spend it all on fashion. Is that controversial? Save 10% of what you earn. Always. Pretend you never earned it. Because one day you’re going to want to buy a house to live in, and you can’t do that if you’ve spunked it all on not-so-cheap threads. I love that phrase ‘spunked it all’.
Save some money, because you work hard, and at the end of each year, you can look at that bank deposit and say “that’s what I have to show for it.” Fetishize over the balance as much as you do a new pair of Miu Mius. You deserve more than a pile of potential op-shop donations for your hard work. Don’t be fooled into thinking you need to buy clothes all the time. You don’t. People like me who talk about clothes all day do it for a job. Other people talk about bin collecting all day, or hedge funds, and you don’t fiendishly slave over what they’re saying. Maybe you do, let’s talk. You’re funny.
Buy once and buy well. Love clothes and enjoy them, but choose pieces that work for your body, you’ll go back to them year on year. Update with seasonal purchases here and there. Don’t panic buy and treat sales like brain surgery. Be precise, make only considered incisions into your wallet. Save money, buy a flat, but don’t worry about when it happens. Whenever you manage to land your own home, it will eventually make you money. And at that point, you can spend the extra on clothes. (via)
I've been thinking about this quote a lot today, how the commodification of "fashion blogging" has put this immense pressure of professional stakes on what should be a positive outlet for expression. I've always been bad with money, always spent just a little too much on clothes at the expense of oh, say... paying bills on time, or filling up my gas tank. There's a
lot of talk in the air about what fashion blogging has done to our sense of self; I realized that my mostly reckless-yet-always-enjoyable pursuit of clothes has become tainted with a sense of anxiety, even urgency. My style has always been a very natural extension of my personality, but lately the simple task of finding things to cover my body has been taking up a little bit too much of my mental energy, at the expense of the pursuits that truly make me happy (reading good books, going to museums, playing the ukulele, copping feels on my boyfriend) and that are in line with what I actually want to do with my life (writing, editing, becoming a video vixen).
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| Troubled by complexities of life, and by complex fruit |
Earlier today I was making a mental list of what I could buy with my next paycheck, because I had actually
forgotten that I'm having surgery this week. I was channeling my anxieties about surgery into buying stuff, and maybe that's okay–there are worse ways to channel negative energy–but the truth is I'm freaking scared, and it's troubling that I've found it so hard to express that, especially since I have such an open (some would say confessional) nature. Bloglife has become about putting your perfect, most innocuous self forward, but at best, my innocuous self is the one who remembers to not pick her nose in the car (I think tinted windows make me invisible). So look, I'm having surgery this week, and probably won't be feeling very cute for the next month or so, but I'll update as often as I can with stuff that makes me happy. There's lots. It's not very hard. I'd been freaking out over having a scar on my belly for the rest of my life, then I saw a photo of
this sexy, scrappy chick on Terry's Diary and it made me happy. It made me feel better. Like life goes on. Like life is what happens while you're trying to blog.
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| At peace with fruit and life and myself |
Catch you on the flipside, my damies....